Family and Loved Ones Counselling
Are you struggling with addictive behaviours?
Or, are you close to someone who is?
Individual counselling gives you a chance to be able to resolve
your problems in a safe place.
Length of Sessions:
Sessions are one hour in length. You
can decide how often you want to attend sessions. Generally, when
you first begin counselling, it is a good idea to commit to coming at
least once a week. This way you can more quickly break through
whatever has been getting in your way of overcoming your addictions.
You may also choose to come twice a week for a while,
if your problems are of a more urgent nature.
Length of Therapy:
The length of time that you remain in therapy
will depend on a number of factors. Some issues can take
more time than others to resolve.
For example, if you are a substance misuser, you
may need to look at going to detox and/or a residential treatment program.
Together we will assess the duration of your therapy on an on-going
Stops Drinking and Discovers
Compassion for Himself and Others
I was drinking too much. I knew that I had a problem
but I certainly didn’t know what to do about it. I
had worn down the trust and respect of my partner and myself
with countless broken promises, and in the depth of my confusion
and pain I found Candace’s number on the internet and
gave her a call. It was one of the most valuable calls
I have ever made.
With Candace’s help and guidance I was able, for the
first time in my memory, to recognize and fully accept my feelings. Eventually
I became able to understand what was making me drink abnormally
and what I could do about it. Candace patiently helped
me to realize that the drinking was the symptom of my
problems and not the cause of them.
Talking with Candace has been very illuminating for me, as
I continue to find myself in the midst of the ongoing revelation
called Life. My self-respect has come back, and my
dealings with my family have become healthy. My mind
is far more open and my thought processes are clearer. I
find compassion now for others, and even for myself, which
I simply never could have felt before. I understand and
know myself today, and I recognize and act on all of my problems
instead of drinking in order to run away from them.
If you are experiencing problems in your relationship, due to your own
addiction or your partner’s addiction, couple counselling can be
When you or someone you care about has addictive behaviours, communication
can easily break down. Feelings of anger, fear, and defensiveness
often cover the love you have for each other, and can leave you feeling
unfulfilled, confused, unloved or even hopeless.
In couple counselling, the two of you will learn new communication
tools, such as active listening and reflecting. This will
ensure that you are both accurately hearing what
the other is saying. You
will also learn how to give feedback to each other without raising
your voice, expressing hostility or communicating in a disrespect way.
This will help you experience more honest and heartfelt communication
with each other, leading to more love and respect in
Being able to speak your truth to your partner in a safe and non-judgemental
environment can make all the difference in your relationship. Tensions
between you ease as you realize you will not be judged or talked down
to when you say what is on your mind.
I will act as an objective mediator and interpreter, assisting
both of you to speak from your hearts and listen to each other respectfully.
Length of Sessions:
Couple counselling sessions are one hour
in length, unless otherwise negotiated. At the beginning,
it is best to commit to coming once a week in order to start practicing
the skills you are learning in the sessions.
Length of Therapy:
As with individual sessions, the length
of couple therapy will depend on the issues you have come to heal. Together
we will assess the extent of the harm that has already been
done to your relationship. We will then find solutions and work
to rebuild the trust between you.
Sobriety Saves His Relationship
Candace can’t change the fact that I am an alcoholic,
but as an addict with long-term recovery herself, she has the
understanding that I needed, as well as the professional knowledge
and skill to help me begin my recovery from my addiction. I
have been able to increase my self-awareness, personal development
and ability to care for myself.
This has, without a shadow of a doubt, saved my relationship
with my girlfriend because it has brought my self-respect back. She
is beginning to trust me again, and we are talking about getting
married and having children. I no longer feel like I
have to hide what I am feeling from her, so that means I can
be much more present in our life together.
I fully recommend that you talk to Candace if you think you
have a problem with alcohol, drugs or other addictions, and
I also fully recommend Candace for couple counselling. She
has helped my partner and me to salvage our relationship, something
we were really not sure we would be able to do.
Addictive behaviour can cause many problems in a family.
Substance abuse, for example, can leave your family feeling fearful
A gambling addiction or over-spending can create financial
chaos in your family.
An eating disorder can negatively affect the physical health
of someone you love.
You may find it challenging to unravel the unhealthy dynamics in
your family that have developed as a result of a family member’s
addiction. You may simply be too close to the problem to be able
to see it objectively.
And even if you do understand the problems you and your family are experiencing, it
is often difficult to change them without professional help.
If relationships in your family are strained, I can help you name
the problem areas and identify what is causing the pain and
As you ease the tensions amongst yourselves, you will learn healthier
ways of relating to one another.
Length of sessions:
Sometimes it is best for family members
to see me individually. At other times it may be best to
have sessions with the whole family. Together we can assess
what is most helpful for you and your family.
Sessions with individual family members are one hour in length, and
1-1/2 hours when I see your entire family together.
Length of Therapy:
The length of family therapy varies depending
on the issues needing to be resolved. Together we will decide
on how long the therapy continues.
Tony’s Family Confronts Addiction
My brother and I first contacted Candace because one of our
sisters was addicted to heroin and living out on the street. We
didn’t know what to do so we decided to go to a counsellor
to get some advice.
We decided to see Candace together for a few sessions, talking
about what it was like to grow up in our pretty strange and
dysfunctional family. Even though we didn’t
initially go to talk about ourselves, we both found that we
felt much better after our sessions.
Candace then started to see our other siblings individually,
and then our parents in couple sessions, to help us learn how
to become more united as a family and set clear boundaries
with our sister. It was amazing to us to see how
much energy our family had been spending on the squeakiest
wheel, while the rest of us had felt neglected by our parents
for many years!
Candace educated us about addiction. She showed
us how to have compassion and understanding toward our sister,
while at the same time not letting her behaviour rule our home.
We stopped putting up with her abusive ways, giving her clear
choices about what she would need to do if she wanted to be part
of our family.
It took a while, but our sister is now in early recovery
from her heroin addiction, something we didn’t think
would ever happen. The rest of us have learned how
to deal with her in more healthy ways, and we have become much
closer as a family.
Working with Candace has been a blessing for all of us. We
feel so lucky to have found her – she has changed our lives
completely for the better!
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There may be times when telephone counselling is preferable to coming
to my office.
- You live outside of the Lower Mainland or
in a different province or country.
- You have a physical disability that makes travelling
difficult for you.
- You are on vacation but would like to check in for
- You are out of town for your work and would like to
receive some support.
The length and duration of counselling by phone is similar to that
of face-to-face counselling. Sessions are generally one hour,
and the duration of our therapy will be assessed by both of us on an
I have been providing telephone counselling to clients for a number
of years. It has proven to be very effective for both individual
and couple therapy.
Counselling: Lynne and Jerry
Learn Healthy Communication
My husband and I live in Northern BC. For the last
few years, we have been having communication problems and there
were many times we thought about splitting up.
We decided to get some counselling, and we looked on the
where we found Candace’s listing. When we
saw that she did telephone counselling, we contacted her and
started our weekly sessions.
Sometimes we talked with Candace together, and sometimes
she talked with us individually, depending on what we all thought
was most needed at the time. I think the most important
thing Candace has taught us was how to really listen to each
other, without interrupting or coming up with a quick reply.
Candace slowed our communication down so we could learn to
really hear what the other was saying and meaning.
Several months later, we are now so used to this new way
of communicating that we are always willing to stop, slow down,
and check things out with each other whenever we feel confused
about what is being said. We feel so much closer to each
My husband and I recently celebrated 6 years together, thanks
to Candace. Although we have not met her in person,
we have found the telephone counselling with Candace to be
incredibly helpful in resolving our communication difficulties.
Click here to read more about telephone counselling.
Family and Loved Ones Counselling
Are you affected by a loved one’s addictive behaviour?
This group will focus on helping you learn how to PUT YOURSELF FIRST.
Ultimately, this is what will be the most helpful to you and to the
one you love who is struggling with addiction.
Removes Her Blinders
and Discovers Self-Respect
When I first came in to see Candace, I was really struggling
with a lot of personal issues around a family member's addiction, as
well as problems in several key relationships.
Over the course of a year, with Candace's gentle but firm
guidance, I have come to understand so much about myself and
my role in these dysfunctional relationships. She
has taught me practical skills to help me create boundaries
in my relationships, deal with childhood issues, and most importantly,
cultivate a new sense of self-respect.
I feel as if I have had blinders on for years. Candace
has helped me to gently remove those blinders and start dealing
with my life. I'm now more in touch with my emotions.
I see myself more clearly and lovingly, and I'm much more equipped
to cope with the difficulties that arise in my relationships.
I no longer allow other people to walk all over me, and I now
speak my truth to the people in my life, including my drug-addicted
Candace has been so supportive, so encouraging, and so persistent
– I am ever grateful for the work she has done with me.
If you are a family member or loved one of a person caught up
in addictive behaviours, you can receive both knowledge and emotional
support in this group.
This weekly therapy group brings you together with other people just
like yourself, who are having a difficult time coping with a loved
There is also an educational component, where we
will discuss the cause of addictions such as substance abuse, gambling,
and disordered eating. We will look at various treatment methods,
and which types of approaches work best to help your addicted
loved ones get the help they need.
You will learn how to set boundaries with your loved ones and establish
a self-care plan for yourself, so that you can lead a healthier and happier
For example, if your partner has an alcohol or drug addiction and is
constantly asking you for money, you have the right to say no!
If a loved one is engaging in over-spending, disordered eating, or smoking, it
is all right for you to reach out for help and support for yourself.
You cannot control another human being – you can only
control your own choices and your own reactions. Regardless
of what the other people around you may be choosing for themselves, you
can learn to make healthy choices for your own life.
For more information about any of these services,
or to have a free
15-minute telephone consultation with me, you can
reach me at (604) 677-5876, or by email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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